Hearing your Wife?
Living in a busy household (who isn’t?) and trying to do all the things required leaves me sometimes unable to “hear my wife”. I don’t mean the audible type of hearing, but the nonverbal hearing. As an example, my wife has issues with debt. We pay our bills but sometimes charge essential purchases and pay on time. This causes her quite abit of stress and it doesn’t bother me. Thus the insensitivity.
As a purported loving, caring, Christian husband, I should know well what makes my wife happy, unhappy, stressed, etc. But being a black and white thinker, I sometimes fail to hear my wife. Yesterday, she was to the point of breaking - phone calls, bills, homeschoolers calling, and just the normal daily routine all rolled together. She was very disappointed with me because I didn’t hear her.
Today, I have scheduled time to work with her on the finance issue to show her a plan to move us out of debt and to “hear her”. I love my wife and work hard in all the wrong ways to make her happy. I do things I think are good but she sees them as selfish things - because I didn’t hear her”.
Today and in the future, I will opt to put on her thinking cap and try to see things through her personal perspective. Tomorrow, maybe she will say “you heard me”.
To God be the Glory.
September 28th, 2005 at 1:12 pm
Great to hear from homeschooling dads! Your wife is very lucky